Even though a marriage may fail, it is possible for a divorce to be successful.
A good divorce does not mean you become best friends with your ex. A good divorce is simply a divorce where all parties find their needs met.
Find a way to co-parent
The well-being of your child comes first. Whatever your relationship with your ex is like, find a way to effectively communicate so you can meet the needs of your child. You do not have to agree on everything, but you should find a way to compromise or work through disagreements.
Involve your child in decisions
Your child’s life is changing too. While they may not have a say in where they live or where they go, ask for your child’s input in decisions that affect them when appropriate. For example, letting your child make decisions about how to decorate their room might help them adjust to a new situation.
Keep your emotions in check
It is easy to get frustrated and angry with an ex. There is a reason you did not stay together. Whenever you must share space or speak with your ex, keep a calm head and remain civil. If you have difficulty controlling emotional reactions when interacting with your ex, seek support. Look for a support group or a professional counselor that can help you process your divorce and build tools to deal with your ex in a healthier way.
Your child may also experience emotional upheaval and difficulty adjusting to their new reality. Let them know they can talk to you, but do not hesitate to seek professional counseling for them too.